Sleeping with Co-workers Part 2
as answered by Missie Horal, Ben "Mouse" McShane, & Jill Anderson
August 2, 2004
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Hello again,
 This is Too Easy/Office Whore. (No Missie, I’m not your sister, but I guess its good to know I am not the only one with this problem.) Thanks for your advice guys you actually have a few good points. I feel like crap for disrespecting myself like that. Its just that I recently broke up with my boyfriend of 6 years. I am still quite young, and I haven’t slept around at all. This would be my first time. After being with a guy for so long and getting sex all the time, I guess the next guy your with, gets a easy shot with you. I ended up treating my coworker the same way I treated my old Boyfriend, and I shouldn’t have. But just incase your wondering here is my update on the situation:
I ended up taking Missie’s advice and talking to him. I got him alone at work, and asked him in simple terms “Did I get played”. I was expecting a “yes”, or a “let’s not talk about this”, but instead he said “ I thought you played me”…What the…?
He then said he was sorry if he made me uncomfortable, and sorry that I thought he had used me for sex. That wasn’t the case. He also told me that he hadn’t told anyone, because it was no ones business. I believe him, simply because if he had of told people, I would hear them talking. And no one has even giving me a funny look yet.
Then it hit me that he may have a girlfriend, and that’s why he hadn’t told anyone. I asked him, and he convinced me that he didn’t have a girlfriend. He said very reasonably that he didn’t want to go out with anyone because he was leaving to go back to school in a month. I totally understand, I don’t want another commitment either, because I am leaving soon too. All I want is to get to know the guy that I slept with. Maybe date him, a bit, because I do truly like him.
Basically this is as far as the conversation went before my boss came over and noticed we weren’t working. However when we were leaving work he asked “are we were going to be ok?”. He seemed to really care.
Maybe things will work out. Who knows. I mean I still catch him checking me out at work, and the fact that he was up for a round two, means that he must really like the sex. Right? I hope he is still interested in me, because I would love to get to know him better, after all he gave me my first orgasm. I think some time should be invested in him? If for some reason it doesn’t work out. I don’t think I could bear to see him at work. I think every time I look at him, I might get a visual of all those kinky positions we were in.
My only question to you now is: how do I convince him to want to date me? Im all for spending time with him and having a summer fling. Only I will not be having sex with him again (at least not right away). I need to get to know the inner him first. And I want my self-respect back.
Thanks,
Too Easy?
| Scattagoric Staff Writer Missie Horal |
Trixter-Loving Staff Writer Jill Anderson |
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Well who would've thunk that readers actually read the advice we give, let alone FOLLOW it! We here at newmoanyeah.com need to start taking our jobs more seriously. We're molding lives people!
On that note, in response to my sister's "friend's" new question:
The surest way to get him to date you for the summer is to sleep with him.
I know this goes against all previous advice, as well as my enclosed rant on job responsibility, but when Steve starts paying me, I'll start listening to my conscience. Until then, enjoy the good sex. You'll have enough mediocre to bad sex with meaningful relationships attached in the future.
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You know, I won't be bitter that you didn't take my advice the first time around. However, I'd obviously have to be the person to say (write) it again: LET IT GO.
Why women continuously try to manipulate men with no interest into relationships will always puzzle me? Have some pride. If you want to gain your self-respect back, then just walk away from the situation. Really--he told you straight out that he doesn't want to be in a relationship which translates that he also doesn't want to date you. Don't try to persuade him. I mean you even said that you're both going to return to school in a couple months. Re-read your advice question right now. Don't you think there's something wrongs with the question: How do I CONVINCE him to date me? Truth be told, you can't CONVINCE anyone and you really shouldn't have to.
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| Jaded Midwestern Staff Writer Ben "Mouse" McShane |
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The best way to get him to date you is to have lots and lots of carefree sex.
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Related articles: Sleeping with Co-workers Part 1
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